Virgo Love Match

The ever practical perfectionist Virgo celebrates their birthday during the same month that dictates the main motivating archetype of their personalities. End of August and beginning of September bring the largest harvest time on earth. This is a time of year that people gather and bring together all the hard work from the summer, and all the waiting from the previous winter. They go out into the fields and pastures as the summer light begins to ebb and the summer heat starts to wane. In the same way Virgo’s love to bring what seems to be chaos into synthesis, and create harmony when there is discord.

Ruled by Mercury, Virgo is a bit of a head over heart person, and yet, as previous Virgo lovers in my life have amply demonstrated, they allow their childhood to permeate the rest of their life, which imbues everything that they do with a profound level of wonder and excitement. In relationships the tension between intellect and wonder, can produce a dizzying display of conversationalism and an independent search for knowledge, that can either alienate you as a Virgo’s lover or bring you in so thoroughly that you could never imagine being with someone as interesting or as dynamic.

Your Virgo lover is not only shy but is extremely hard on his/her self, and that is a combination that can lead to some problematic personality traits. It can, at first, seem as though Virgo is completely detached, without emotion, and yet precisely the opposite is true. They are keenly sensitive, and this can be seen as any depth of relationship is explored between you and your Virgo lover.

This criticism is the basis of your lover’s most annoying personality trait: the external critic that exists in every Virgo. Despite your best attempts to let your partner know how much this type of nagging examination of all you faults, bugs you, they persist. It is as much a reflection of how incomplete they sometimes feel, and less about you. But it is something that will drive away not only casual relationships, but the meaningful ones as well.

Virgo has a hard enough time finding someone that they feel can even measure up to the harsh light of their ever evaluating third eye, but once they do find that special someone, the temptation can be to continue to perfect that person. As much as it is appealing to let Virgo take a red marking pen to your personality because you desire their love, it is important to remember that they are reflecting their own insecurities. In letting them continue this type of behavior you are reconstituting their own identity issues.

Don’t let Virgo fool you though. It is easy to mistake the shyness of the Virgo as aloofness, when really all it is that they are more comfortable with intellectualizing and dialoging than spilling their dark emotional secrets. It is for this reason that watching and touching them is the best way to create an intimate physical connection, rather than over eloquent speech. They want to be held when they need to feel loved, fed when they are hungry, and kissed when they feel passionate. They are an earth sign, and thus feel most at home with their five senses, so they are also known to be hot in bed.

Warning, withholding of affection as a means to argue or get something from a Virgo, will inevitably backfire. Instead of motivating them it will reduce the reason that they want to do something for you in the first place. They will feel unloved when not touched, and they will lose interest in an attempt to protect themselves. Always bribe your Virgo with love and sex, never with negatives.

Best Match for Virgo

As a star sign ruled by the element of Earth, your safest bet, Virgo, is probably one of the other two Earth signs, i.e. TAURUS or CAPRICORN. The favorable 120° – or 4 signs – spacing between Zodiac signs in the same element makes for an especially harmonious relationship and a level of compatibility well above the norm.

Both Taurus and Capricorn are good compatibility matches for Virgo since they share Virgo’s practical, cautious and materially-oriented approach to life. However, Capricorn probably just beats Taurus as the better compatibility choice for Virgo. Because Capricorn and Virgo are equally diligent and conscientious, they find it relatively easy to cope with each other’s workaholic tendencies.

Really excellent too, in terms of their ability to harmonize with earthy Virgo, while at the same time helping it to develop more sensitivity, are the Water signs CANCER and SCORPIO, spaced by 60° – or next but one – from Virgo. Many believe this kind of Earth-Water combination is actually the ideal – and surely it’s no coincidence that a high proportion of successful compatibility matches are between people with birthdays two Zodiac signs apart.

So what about another VIRGO as a good compatibility match? On the plus side, you’ll definitely know what makes them tick, since they embody so many aspects of yourself. Especially with a Virgo of the opposite sex, the chances are you’ll be strongly attracted to their best Virgoan qualities – like their intelligence, efficiency and surprising modesty.

But because we don’t tend to like our bad points when we see them reflected in somebody else, there will also be things about Virgo people – most likely their obsessive nit-picking and fault-finding – that you’ll positively hate! If so, better take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror!

Worst Match for Virgo

The truth is, Virgo, your ideal compatibility match will rarely simply be a clone of yourself (how boring would that be!). But neither, for that matter, should their star sign be too astrologically antagonistic to your own.

For this reason, you should be cautious – in the absence of redeeming features – about folk born under the star sign of SAGITTARIUS. Because Sagittarius is at a challenging 90° angle (or 3 sign spacing) from Virgo, the differences between you may be so vast, the chances are these people will be too incompatible with you – and just too much hard work!

Of all the star signs, Sagittarius is probably the worst possible compatibility match for Virgo. Due to its extreme diligence and conscientiousness, Virgos may find it harder than just about anyone else to cope with Sagittarius’s happy-go-lucky, maverick lifestyle.

There may also be lesser compatibility challenges with the signs spaced at 150° (or 5 signs) from Virgo, i.e. AQUARIUS and ARIES. Although traditionally considered to be ‘awkward’, and involving signs in conflicting elements, 150° relationships aren’t necessarily quite as bad, however, as they might appear. Okay, these combinations may not be your first choice, but neither should they be your last. So don’t make the mistake of writing them off as unsuitable – in many cases a love match could work out fine!

Why Opposites Attract

Rather than someone who conflicts with you, Virgo, what you’re really looking for, from a star sign compatibility point of view, is the kind of person who is able to balance or complement you in some way. For this reason, the sign diametrically opposite your own, i.e. PISCES, can be a great compatibility match for you, Virgo. Opposite star signs are often magnetically attracted to each other, their strong yin-yang polarity giving them the potential to complete each other like two halves of a perfect whole.

Virgo Man with other Zodiac Signs

Virgo Woman with other Zodiac Signs